In the past, I have talked about “love banks,” for individuals. We also have love banks for each relationship we are in – from family to friends to coworkers to romantic partners.

Just like a financial bank account, your deposits into the various love banks need to exceed your withdrawals or else you are “in the red” and the account is depleted.

In a relationship, the withdrawals consist of various behaviors, including but not limited:

  • Sarcasm
  • Ridiculing
  • Threatening
  • Accusing
  • Labeling
  • Taunting
  • Laughing
  • Blaming
  • Failures or missed opportunities to meet the other persons’ needs.

When withdrawals happen, it chips away at the relationship, causing disconnection.  Eventually, if we continue to withdraw from the love bank without making deposits, the relationship is depleted. It is crucial we make daily deposits into the love bank.

Check out this Relationship Love Bank for some ideas for types of deposits you can make in your relationships.

What are your favorite ways to add deposits into your relationship love banks?

Dr. Irgang
Dr. Lisa Irgang is a Clinical Psychologist and the Owner of Relationship Solutions Center. She provides a variety of services to meet her clients needs. Dr. Lisa has worked with people throughout Chicagoland, helping with adjusting to significant life changes, ADHD, Alternative Sexualities, Anxiety Disorders, Bipolar Disorder, Dealing with Chronic Illness, Depression, Low self-esteem, Parenting special needs children, Relationship concerns, and Trauma. She's a graduate of Argosy University Chicago and a Fellow at CLII - Collaborative Law Institute of Illinois.

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