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Taking Care of Your Mental Health By Taking Prescribed Medications

When I was thinking about what to write for Thursday Thoughts on Mental Illness, I realized how I would be remiss if I did not talk about medication during Mental Health Awareness Month.

When I broach the subject of medication with folks, almost everyone expresses concern. Typically, I hear some combination of the following concerns.

  • You might not consider yourself to be a “medication person,” meaning you also typically avoid basic pain medication including Advil, Aleve, and/or Tylenol.
  • In part, there is a fear of being labeled “crazy.”
  • Finally, is also a fear of dependence.

I don’t like taking medication of any kind.

Taking medication is not something I take lightly. My preference is to work on coping strategies first. We will work together to identify the strategies that could be the most effective for you. These will change depending on the situation and circumstances of the moment. Over the course of therapy, your potential strategies and skills will continue to develop and grow. If I observe the coping strategies are not providing enough relief and/or your symptoms are severe enough to impact daily functioning, I am going to have a conversation with you about the benefits of medication.

Just as medical providers might suggest medication to optimize your physical health, sometimes the most effective treatment for depression is to add medication to your treatment.  My goal is to always help you reach your fullest potential for growth and wellness.

Won’t people think I’m “crazy” if I take medication?

Hopefully not. The reality is, it is more common for people to need antidepressants than to need medication for diabetes or high cholesterol. While many people face situational depression, Major Depression is a serious health issue.

There are five main types of psychotropic medications. They include anti-anxiety medications, antidepressants, stimulants, mood stabilizers, and anti-psychotic medications.

  • Anti-depressants
  • Anti-anxiety
  • Stimulants are typically prescribed if you who have ADHD. Stimulants have also been found to work for some sleep disorders.
  • Mood stabilizers are prescribed if you have experienced an episode of hypomania, mania, or a severe episode of depression.
  • And, Anti-psychotic medications are prescribed if you have been diagnosed with a severe mental illness including schizophrenia, or if you have experienced a psychotic episode in conjunction with your Bipolar Disorder. Anti-psychotics have also been known to help folks with Alzheimer’s.

Interestingly, I have found that when you are vulnerable with others and share you are taking a psychotropic medication, most find people come out of the woodwork and disclose they are also taking a psychotropic medication. You will likely end up comparing medications and your experiences!

What if I don’t like taking medication or am afraid of becoming dependent?

If you have a mental illness, or a mental health condition, you might benefit from psychotropic medication.

While I have not done the additional schooling it would take to become a prescribing psychologist (available in some states, including Illinois), by reviewing your medication(s) with you, I can help you determine if they are working effectively. Over the years, I have seen a sizable portion of folks who do not realize they are not receiving maximum benefit from their medication. This typically occurs because a person might have been experiencing their symptoms for so long that they have not had experienced feeling their best and/or they have forgotten how it feels to be in their best place. In these situations, it often requires trust in me and a willingness to try medication.

Usually, the idea of dependence you are typically thinking about is connected to alcohol or substance use dependence.  In those situations, dependence usually means that the alcohol or substance controls a persons’ life.  They are often thinking about their substance, figuring out ways to get their substance (potentially including stealing from loved ones), or using their substance. 

Yes, there is the matter of your body becoming “addicted” if you mean that your body needs the medication to reach optimal functioning.  Psychotropic medication is effective because it either providers neurotransmitters and/or improves the rate with which they communicate to your brain.  Medication helps “even things out” in a way your brain (specifically, the limbic system) cannot do on your own.  There is a part of your mental health experience that is out of your control.  What is in your control is if you choose to help improve functioning by taking medication.

I hope this helps you understand the use and importance of medication when it comes to managing and improving your mental health.  If you have any thoughts or questions, please feel free to comment below or send me a message.  You can also call 630.912.2908 to schedule an appointment.

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Coparenting can be very stressful. On this ADResolution Tuesday, I want to offer a way you can take care of your mental health when coparenting.

The Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) members are judges, lawyers, and mental health professionals dedicated to helping families work together in the best interest of the children.

Coparents working together with school aged children.

They have developed guidelines and best practices you can use when communicating with your coparent.

For example,

  • In providing information to your coparent, make sure to ACT (accurate, complete, timely).
  • If unsure if the other parent is entitled to information then follow the golden rule. Give information that you would like to have in the situation.
  • Be respectful when communication. This means no name calling, no nicknames, and no abusive language.

Comment below or message me to receive a copy of the guidelines.

Part of maintaining positive mental health is nurturing your relationships.

Relationships fulfill our need for connection, including the need of physical touch. Beginning in infancy, we bond with others and learn to trust through positive touch. Swaddling, cradling, and rocking works for infants. For adults, hugs, cuddling, holding hands, and kissing or other intimate touch is a way to show someone matters to you.

For today’s Mental Health Awareness Day tidbit, I’ve put together some ideas for Alphabet Dating. Have you ever tried to work your way through the alphabet? Comment below to let us know some of your favorite alphabet dates!

Alphabet Dating ideas from Relationship Solutions Center

This month, I have spent a lot of time sharing information about the importance of mental health. Well, today is the day!

What day is it?

It’s

Check This Out!

How are you going to take action?

  • Are you going to take a time out?
  • Will you practice deep breathing?
  • Can you remember to say kind words to yourself?
  • Is it time to connect with someone else?
  • Are you going to listen to music intentionally? (Not as background noise.)
  • Will you spend time in nature?
  • Can you make a list of things that are in your control and things that are out of your control?
  • Are there things you can add to your gratitude jar?

No matter what, TODAY is the day YOU, along with 1600 brands, nonprofits, cultural leaders, and government agencies, can TAKE ACTION for YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.

As a bonus, once you take action, shares one (or more) of these GIFs to your social media and let the world know you took action!

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Continuing Mental Health Awareness Month conversation this May 15th

Founded by the United Nations in 1994, May 15th has been designated as International Day of Families.

We have several days throughout the year that are designated to think about and celebrate family. They seem to cluster in the summer. Have you ever noticed that?

  • There’s Mother’s Day on the second Sunday in May.
  • Then Father’s Day on the third Sunday in June.
  • We have Grandparent’s Day on the first Sunday after Labor Day.
  • And even National Aunt’s and Uncle’s Day of July 26th.
  • National Children’s Day is an outlier, celebrated on November 20th

While these are all important, International Family Day is the one set aside to celebrate the family unit. It is the unit of family that forms the foundation of your psychological house.

Who makes up your family?

  • Are they biological?
  • Adopted?
  • Foster?
  • In-laws?
  • Friends?
  • Chosen?

Do you have more than one family? Can your family come together in one place or do you prefer to keep them separate?

Is your family what you hope for or do you wish your relationships were different?

Honoring who you are and where you came from

One of my hobbies is genealogy. This is a natural extension of my curiosity and love of psychology and what makes people who they are. As an adult, I have also developed a deeper appreciation of history, which is of course, also a natural extension of psychology as we study stories of time and people. As I learn more about my genealogy, I often wish I had thought to have my grandmother’s generation tell more stories. It wasn’t really their thing, but now that they are gone, I not only feel the lose of their presence, but the loss of part of my story. I would love to know more about my families’ immigration stories. What was life like for them growing up, but also growing up in other countries and in other cultural atmospheres and other times in history.

In thinking about our stories and family, I think it is important to respect the painful memories and difficult lessons.  Those experiences have helped develop strength and resiliency.  They have taught you valuable lessons.

At the same time, it is also important to pay attention to those good memories.  Too often, we focus on the painful memories and forgot to lean into the positive experiences.

What stories would you like family to know or remember about you? What are some of your favorite memories or quotes?  Memorialize them here with our Relationship Solutions Center family.

Here is one I found and appreciate by Richard Bach.

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Happy May!  Sunshine and warmer weather are around the corner.  If you are like me, I crave this time of year and it coincides perfectly with Mental Health Awareness Month.  This is a time we are past the cold and rain (hopefully).  Sun is definitely one of the tools in my toolbox.

With mental health discussions becoming more prominent over the past two years, Mental Health America has designated the theme for Mental Health Awareness Month this year as

Back to Basics

We want to make sure you have a solid foundation of basic mental health language and concepts.

The first concept is screening.  Screening means answering a few questions online or an in-person checklist.  If your score is high enough, it will be recommended you follow-up with a mental health professional for further evaluation.

Mental Health America offers many screening tools on their website.  Take a one, two, or a few to get an idea of how you are doing from a mental health perspective. Make this a priority during Mental Health Awareness Month. The sooner the better!

I also have screening tools available depending on what concerns you currently have. Please send me an email with some information or call (630.912.2908) and I will send one to you.